Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Blogger Small Group

This week's reading was James 4.

For those of you who are new to Small group...welcome. I'm Mandy and I don't follow the rules. I don't comprehend scripture well from reading & analyzing, so I usually write a story. Just thought I should let you know in case you look at other people's and mine looks weird!

The first thing that popped out to me in this scripture is 4:8 when it says "you double-minded". The first thing I thought of was "two-faced". Ummm.....that's a hard subject for girls. So many times we (in our younger years of course) say one thing to this person, and another thing to that person.

But wait, isn't it true for adults too? Don't some of us act one way in front of our Christian friends, another way at work, and another way at home?

There is a woman at my old church who is always kind, smiling, helpful when there is a group of ladies around. But when you are alone w/ her, she's very different. Making you feel unimportant & unwelcome. Doesn't seem very Christian, but isn't it us Christians who give Christians a bad name?

I honestly think that because this woman was a leader in the church, she knew all of us on a deeper level. Deeper as in, SHE'S SEEN THE FILE, if such a "file" exists. She probably knows everything about us!! I feel like she treated me differently because she knew my past. And not "past" as in last week, last month, last year...but like LAST DECADE! Hello? I think I've grown up a lot in a decade.

The other part that hit home for me was the "boasting about tomorrow". My family LOVES to make plans. Plans for a weekend, a road trip, a vacation, our finances, additions to the house...everything! We made a 400+ paper chain to countdown to our trip to Disneyworld in DECEMBER! (206 days!)

We plan things so far in advance and yet God tells us that "we are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes." He also says "you do not even know what will happen tomorrow."

Silly me - I thought I was in control here! I have plans coming out the wazoo! Plans for my kids college, their weddings, their KIDS. Yet, I feel like we have to plan for somethings. We can't say "I'm not going to save for their college because who knows when Christ is coming."

I guess I need to find a balance in that area of my life. I thought I had learned that after losing my Mom so suddenly... guess I need a referesher too.

UPDATE - Dangit - after reading my post back I realized that 4:11 applies to my reference to the mean lady at church. "do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against his brother or judges him speaks agains the law".........whoops.


Anonymous said...

See I struggle there. Planning. I think it is okay to plan. I don't know. I mean I think it's okay to save money. I think when we are doing things so we can be responsible and not stupid, I believe we are blessed with that. In today's age we have to plan and save. Times have changed, and so should we.

With all of that said, I think he still doesn't want us to worry about tomorrow, because we don't know what tomorrow will bring. Sure. However, planning for tomorrow and living today are different.

Slander...reminds me of Scott's 24 hour challenge. It's a terrible thing we do without even trying. =/


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Michael said...

As I have come out of this, I think that planning IS okay. We just need to realize that "our" plan isn't always "HIS" plan. I forgot the verse that talks about planning, but it is out there. So don't worry about planning, just don't make "Your" plan.


PS: I liked Scott's 24 hour challenge....

Scott Fillmer said...

Mandy, I just love your perspective on scripture. If we were all made by our creator the exact same way we would have nothing to discuss or talk about.

If you notice, we all take a different slant on how to study scripture, some are personal, some are more theological, some are stories. I love reading stories. :)

but don't do it nearly enough.

Milk Mama said...

Thanks for commenting on my blog. :) I'll answer your question along with the others on Sunday! God bless~MM

Heath said...

Thank you for your refreshing take on how the scriptures apply to your life. I'm with you on this one. I suck at theology so telling parts of my life story help bring the scripture into perspective.

Natalie Witcher said...

Love this post. Thank you for sharing.

Jeff M. Miller said...

'when it says "you double-minded". The first thing I thought of was "two-faced"' That's absolutely what I've been trying to articulate but couldn't think of the term.

There's this dichotomy you talk about with the elderly lady. Sadly, it happens with ministers too. One of the ministries I left was because the pastor was one person in the pulpit, and another person during staff meetings.

Totally wrong.

Thanks for your thoughts.